Death v. Materialism, Individualism
Are Americans afraid of death? Is death a taboo topic? Why do you think this is the case? How might our feelings about death be related to our materialism? I also think that our feelings about death are rooted in our culture's individualism. See this post about the way our culture associates individualism with grieving one's death. That is why I think most students would say the movie was a sad movie (at least parts of it) even though those same students would admit that Morrie doesn't want them to be sad. Morrie himself explains,"Don't be so sad because I'm going to die Mitch...Death ends a life but not a relationship..." And Morrie explains, I'll still love you and you'll always love me.
Happiness v. Work, Personal Achievement, Success, Materialism
What are some ways that Mitch values hard work, achievement, success? Is this true for you or your parents? Does this start in high school or even sooner? What ways? Is it possible to obtain a different type of success? Think about (click here for more info) the Nothing assignment and how we connect what we do to who we are as people. Our culture constructs a reality where we are not allowed to just be. We must be doing at all times; it is valuing personal achievement, time, work, competition, materialism and success. Note that happiness is never a apart of the equation. The hegemonic assumption is that happiness simply comes with those values. See this post about happiness and it's relationship to money. Contrast these values with the values that Michael Buettner writes about in his book Thrive. What are the lessons you learned from Thrive? How would you like to live your life differently after reading this? What would be a message you would like to share with the rest of your classmates who don't have the privilege of being in our class? This value cluster also reminds me of this joke about an American businessman and a Mexican fisherman.
Love v. Individualism, Materialism
Do you think that Americans are afraid to love each other, or show that they love each other? If we are afraid to love, why might that be? Does our culture socially construct our reality so that we are afraid to love? What values in our culture might make us feel this way? How can we overcome this? What is the difference between the value of “romantic love” and real love - the love Morrie talks about? I think these different types of love are related to American values too. See this post for more on the idea of romantic love vs. real love. How is this a part of your life?
Understanding the American values of Independence, Freedom, Individualism & Personal Control v. Dependency
1.
Individually, reflect on
Tuesdays with Morrie. What are some
examples within the movie of characters being individualistic (as opposed to
being dependent)? How does the value of
Individualism combine with the value of personal control? Cite examples from the movie.
2.
What are some ways that you see the values of individualism and personal
control shaping your own life or the lives of your parents/siblings/friends?
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3.
After you discussed number one above in your small group, do you
understand how the American cultural values can shape individuals’ lives?
_____Yes
_____No
If yes, what was one example from your
group partners that was a good example?
If no, why not? What questions do you have?
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4. Close your eyes. Think of someone influential in your life. Now write down who you thought about and why you thought about that person.
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In what ways are Americans afraid of being dependent on others? Do you think that this is related to our value of independence and freedom? In what ways do you depend on other people? Does this bother you? Another great example of these values influencing us negatively is explored in this TED talk by Brene Brown. She speaks about vulnerability and our cuture. We want to numb our feelings of vulnerability, but in doing so we also numb our feelings of connection to others and our sense of worthiness which allows us to feel love and happiness.
The feeling of individualism and independence that creates this lack of invulnerability may also detach us from feelings of gratitude that help contribute to our happiness.
